I really regret this

In the past, I was a very strong perfectionist. It kept me from doing things in a timely way in my biz and constantly had me holding myself back from sharing what I really wanted.

I was thinking about this with my book, Love Your Gut, recently. 

I wrote that book back in 2016 when gut health was on the cusp of becoming mainstream. But, I became so overwhelmed with the editing process, and frozen with perfectionism, that it took me seven years to get it done. 

It wasn't the writing of the book that took that long... but editing it to a place that felt like it was "good enough" for me to put out in the world. 

Honestly, I regret that I wasn't able to get it out sooner, as I truly believe I would have been able to reach and help more people with it as a "newer" topic of health back then.  

But, that didn't happen because my fears and nervous system trauma patterns got the best of me. 

I don't want that for you...

So, I want you to hear where this perfectionism really comes from. 

Perfectionism is a response from your nervous system rooted in fear.

It's not part of your personality. It's not a skill.

It's a response to the fear of judgement, the fear of failure, and the fear of rejection. 

Or some version of this, based on your core wounds. 

There's an "automatic" pattern that shows up for you seeking that level of perfection so that you can avoid those fears coming true. 

You may even think that you can avoid feeling those fears if you do everything perfectly... but we know that's not gonna happen. 

The things is, perfectionism can feel like a great driver toward success when you're in it.

But, I see it holding people back more than anything. 

In reality, it causes you to procrastinate, nitpick, and worry way too much about how something will be received. 

Instead of just getting things done imperfectly, we stall until it's juuuust right. 


So, how do you unwind this pattern?

By supporting your nervous system, you can reassure your system that it's safe to not have everything done perfectly—and really trust that to be true.

To trust that even if judgment or failure happen, that you'll be OK. 

Especially when it comes to your business.


What I've learned through my own process of dismantling perfectionism is this:

1. My message is more important than the details (I wish I'd realized this sooner with my book)

2. Nothing is ever fully perfect, and there will always be room for edits—no matter how many times you go over and over something

3. If others are holding me to a standard of perfectionism, and minimal imperfections are a turn off so big that they "reject" me, they’re not the right fit for my community anyway 🎤🫳